This is my space to share my quest to collect as many broken branches as I can in my fractured family tree which resembles a bramble bush more then a proper tree. As I go forward in this blogging journey I hope to share how I have searched far & wide for family - with no regard for where they come from or if I should really want them.
You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!

Showing posts with label Graham. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Graham. Show all posts

Saturday, November 28, 2020

Grizel to Grace ~ Changing the Optics

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2020 Week 48 (GRATITUDE)

When I first found the name Grizel in an ancestor's record I pondered why anyone would name their child after the tough inedible part of meat (gristle). I just couldn't imagine why a parent would name their new baby girl after such a yucky thing. Next I wondered if the child was particularly whiny, and named after the grizzly noises they made.  I then thought maybe the child was born with hair the colour of 'salt & pepper', and it was a spelling variation of grizzled

When I found several named Grizel in the records I was searching I realized there must be something more to this name. 

The name Grizel is: 

"Scottish and English variant of Griselda, from Old German,
possibly meaning "grey battle-maiden". " 
                                           1

What I found interesting is that all of the Grizels I found were known as Grace.
The name Grace invokes far more attractive visuals that the name Grizel did for me. 

I love the name Grace. I also love the word Grace. It's a part of my everyday language. I frequently comment that I am grateful the people that care about me give me grace. I am not perfect, and the grace offered by those around me assists me in living life authentically.

GRACE & GRATITUDE walk hand in hand. 

Now back to the name:
"Grizel / Grizelda / Griselda
This name is thought to have been derived from the Old German
"grisja" (grey) and "hild" (battle). The 14th century author Boccaccio
wrote a story about Patient Griselda in the Decameron and the English
author Chaucer wrote a version of this in "The Clerk's Tale" which
popularised the name and associated it with patience. Grizel became a
popular form in Scotland though there were many variations -
Grizzel, Girsel, Girzel and Goirzel. It was used by both the nobility and
commoners - one well known bearer of the name was
Lady Grizel Baillie (1665-1746), daughter of a Covenanter,
the 1st Earl of Marchmont. She wrote a number of Scots songs and her
"Household Book" was reprinted by the Scottish History Society in 1911.
In Scotland, Grizel sometimes became Grace
and a diminutive form was Zelda."   1

and 
"Grace
The name Grace came originally from the Latin "gratia" meaning
"grace" or "favour". It was not found often in Britain or Scotland until the
Puritans took it up in the 17th century, prompted by their phrase
"by the grace of God". The Puritans took the name to North America.
In Scotland it became quite popular in the 19th century but in a
number of cases it was derived from another popular name, Grizel, which
became "gris" and "Grace" (see also below). The name was given a boost
as a result of the heroine Grace Darling (1815-1842) who rescued some
shipwrecked sailors off the coast of Northumberland. In 1900, Grace
was the 22nd most popular first name in Scotland. However, in recent years,
despite Princess Grace of Monaco, the name is
not found often in Scotland."   
2
 
All of the Grizels I found were in Scottish records. The first Grizel I found in our Bramble Bush was the mother-in-law of my 5th great uncle.

Grizel (Grace) Watson
BIRTH 25 MAR 1787 • Lamington, Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH 1 OCT 1865 • Kirkmuirhill, Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire, Scotland
her husband was|
Alexander Pate
BIRTH 10 DEC 1779 • Clannochdyke, Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH 25 MAY 1826 • Abbeygreen, Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire, Scotland

Their daughter
Elizabeth Pate
BIRTH 16 JUL 1818 • Lesmahag, Lanark
DEATH 19 JULY 1873 • Turfholm, Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire, Scotland
married my 5th great uncle|
James Graham
BIRTH 16 JUL 1811 • Closeburn, Dumfries, Thornhill, Dumfries & Galloway, Scotlan
DEATH 23 MAR 1886 • Drowned in River Dothan, Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire

This couple has been very memorable for me because it is through one of their descendants that I was finally able to confirm this family line.  Prior to the DNA match I had taken my 5th great grandparents out of my tree several times. I had started my tree over twice concerned I may have not researched accurately. 

The DNA match finally allowed me to believe I had reasonably exhausted my search, and could claim my 5th great grandparents: Peter & Ann (nee Kirk) Graham.

The DNA match confirmed that James Graham was the brother 
of my 4th great grandfather 
Robert Graham
BIRTH 16 JAN 1814 • Thornhill, Closeburn, Dumfries-shire, Scotland
DEATH 24 MAR 1892 • Forth, Lanarkshire, Scotland
married (my 4th great grandmother)
Susanah (Susan) Hamilton
BIRTH 03 NOV 1814 • Carnwath, Lanarkshire
DEATH 11 APR 1894 • Forth, Lanarkshire, Scotland

The parents of James & Robert Graham were:
Peter Graham
BIRTH ABT 1788 • Closeburn, Dumfriesshire
DEATH Unknown
and
Ann Kirk
BIRTH ABT 1785
DEATH Unknown

James and Robert had two sisters that I have found so far:
Mary Graham
BIRTH 9 FEB 1819 • Crawfordjohn, Lanarkshire, Scotland.
DEATH Unknown
and
Elizabeth Graham (who married William Stark)
BIRTH 10 FEB 1821 • Muirkirk, Ayrshire, Scotland:
DEATH 22 NOV 1903 • 16 Anderson Street, Cambusnethan, Lanarkshire


My brick wall still stands at Peter Graham & Ann Kirk. I have found birth records for the 4 children I have listed. I have found no birth, marriage, or death records for either of them. I have found no records for other children. |I am still searching.




By using family line specific DNA profile photos I can easily see where DNA matches have confirmed the paper trail research.






Still searching to get past the brick walls!







This is why I search - 



Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!
















***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***






Footnotes:

1 What's in a Name? Grizel, Retrieved November 28th 2020 from
https://www.whatsinaname.net/female-names/Grizel.html

2 Popular Scottish Forenames, Grace, Grizel, Retrieved November 28th 2020 from
http://www.rampantscotland.com/forenames/blnames_fg.htm





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Saturday, September 19, 2020

Me & My Sassanach ~ Scottish & English Roots

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2020 Week 38 (ON THE MAP)


I am a fan of Outlander.
I have read all the books, and watched all the television episodes. 

I always felt the story spoke to me because of my Scottish heritage.
I can claim Clan Graham on my mom's side & Clan MacTavish on my dad's. 

It's also possible my growing up in a town with a strong 'hippy' culture
helped with my belief in the magic of the standing stones,
OR as I like to call them, the fairy circles. 

My great grandfather Thomas Thomson
with his bagpipes

I  love the bagpipes. 
Whenever I hear them I feel like my heritage is calling me. 


Now back to Claire & Jamie's story!


Outlander is a story of love:
across time, 
over battles, 
forever
and 
always
It's a tale of Jamie Fraser and his Sassanach!


The trials and tribulations they experienced throughout their lives is mirrored in the tale of my husband and I. 


Claire and Jamie are involved in many battles where they team together to win against all odds, but their beginning battles were not successful.
There was often ale involved in their successes and failures. 


My husband and I were also involved in battle the first night we met. We met in a nightclub where we teamed up to race tricycles. That first week of races we lost because ale guzzling was not a skill my husband had which slowed us down. The following week he redeemed himself, and we were the reigning champions for a few weeks before moving on to other battles. 


One of them is Scottish (Jamie), and one is English (Claire). 

In our relationship:
one of us is Scottish (me) and one of us is English (him).
Jamie calls Claire his Sassanach.
May I introduce my Sassanach. 


This is where the similarities between us and them ends. 



In considering who to write about for this week's ON THE MAP I was intrigued to find that my husband and I each had one family line that seemed to have stayed put. I think this is the only line in my entire half of the Bramble Bush that had done so. My Slicer/Black line was in the North Berwick, East Lothian, Scotland area back to at least the 1600s. My husband's Woolfenden line was in the Rochdale, Lancashire, England area to at least the 1600s.

Source: Google Maps, Retrieved September 19th 2020


Even though these two families were separated by only 240 miles they were far greater apart. The Scottish English divide of the day would have resulted in us never getting close enough to meet.

Then again my research indicates that my Scottish ancestors may have supported the English so maybe we would have met at a grand ball where there was games and ale - sort of like our actual meeting! 

Or maybe we would have rejected our family's expectations because we both have a lot of counter-will and would have still met. 




Part of the English & Scottish ancestors 
that make this BRAMBLE BUSH


On my husband's side his 5th great grandparents were:
Thomas Woolfenden
BIRTH ABT 1766 • Rochdale, Lancashire, England
DEATH 1814 • Rochdale, Lancashire, England
&
Martha (Matty) Holt
BIRTH Unknown
DEATH 1802 • Rochdale, Lancashire, England

Thomas was the son of:
William Woolfenden
BIRTH 1732 • Rochdale, Lancashire, England
DEATH 1792 • Rochdale, Lancashire, England
&
Ann Whitaker
BIRTH NOV 1741 • Rochdale, Lancashire, England
DEATH FEB 1803 • Rochdale, Lancashire, England


My 5th great grandparents were:
George Black
BIRTH 6 DEC 1754 • North Berwick, East Lothian, Scotland
DEATH 7 OCT 1828 • North Berwick, East Lothian, Scotland
&
Alison (Allison) Kilgower (Kilgour)
BIRTH 7 JULY 1755 • North Berwick, East Lothian, Scotland
DEATH 14 SEP 1834 • North Berwick, East Lothian, Scotland

George was the son of
George Black
BIRTH 9 NOV 1729 • Dirleton, East Lothian, Scotland
DEATH ABT 1785 • East Lothian, Scotland
&
Suffia (Sophia) Fleming
1730–1780
BIRTH ABT 1730 • East Lothian, Scotland
DEATH ABT 1780 • East Lothian, Scotland








Our Bramble Bush is a story of love:
across time, 
over battles, 
forever
and 
always


It's a tale of me and my Sassanach!




This is why I search - 



Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!















***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***







Links:

Amy Johnson Crow, 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks Challenge
https://www.amyjohnsoncrow.com/



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include a link to the specific blog and
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Saturday, June 20, 2020

Unexpected ~ Not Related To My Husband

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: 2020 Week 25 (UNEXPECTED)


Many years ago I first heard the tale of the Meharg's in my husband's side of the Bramble Bush.



As the tale goes this line of the family had been sheep thieves. When they made the decision to leave their sheep thieving days behind they reversed the spelling of their name for a fresh start. Graham became Meharg.


My husband's X2 great grandmother was a Meharg

Rosa Lulu Meharg
BIRTH 12 JUL 1882 • Glen Meyer, Ontario
DEATH 23 DEC 1962 • Tillsonburg, Ontario, Canada


My mother's maiden name was Graham.


There was little doubt in my mind that my husband and I were related via Clan Graham.


Flash forward many years, and we receive our Ancestry DNA results which show we are not related.


BUT wait -- what if it's too small a match to flag for Ancestry.
Off to GedMatch for final confirmation




Nothing in my family tree was as unexpected as finding out my husband and I had no in common DNA segments via the Graham family line.


I went in search of the story we had heard. There are many records of exact and similar stories out there which may suggest there is some truth to the tale about a fresh start after a life of thievery.  



There are also many sources that Meharg is an Irish name that had nothing to do with the Grahams of Scotland.


This very unusual Irish name is believed to originate from Galloway in Scotland where it was originally spelt as Mac Giolla Chairge - 'the son of the servant of Carraigh' - a personal name meaning 'the rock'. There are number of alternative modern spellings including MacIlhagga, McIlharga, MacElhargy, Maharg and Maharg, these alternatives being found generally in counties Antrim and Derry. The abreviation of 'Mac' to 'Ma' or 'Me' is common in Ulster for reasons of dialect. The name also appears in The Famine Record for 1845-46 as Mahagin (son of the son of 'Harg') and Michael Maha, as well Joan Maharg of Liverpool, described as a lady who eimgrated to America in 1846. The first recorded spelling of the family name is shown to be that of Mac Giolla Chairge which was dated 1659 the All Ireland Census during the reign of Richard Cromwell, The Lord Protector 1658-1659 Surnames became necessary when governments introduced personal taxation. In England this was known as Poll Tax. Throughout the centuries, surnames in every country have continued to "develop" often leading to astonishing variants of the original spelling. 1



My husband's X3 great grandfather arrived from Ulster, Ireland
John Franklin Meharg 
BIRTH 24 JUN 1832 • Rathfriland, Ulster, County Down, Ireland
DEATH 7 JUN 1909 • Norfolk, Haldimand, Ontario, Canada


John F Meharg
John Franklin & Mary Etta (nee Longstaff) Meharg, and their children
source: Ancestry 


my great grandfather arrived from Scotland

Robert (Bob/Bobby) Graham
BIRTH 3 MAY 1906 • Holytown, Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH 10 AUG 1960 • Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada


Jack with Nellie and other Grahams at a family wedding.
My great grandfather Robert (Bob) (Bobby) Graham is not in this photo
his son (John Robert (Jack) and ex wife Nellie (nee Cannon) are
along with his mother and siblings and their families
source: family photo


The Meharg line of our Bramble Bush is from Ireland, and the Graham line from Scotland. 



The roots of this Bramble Bush are not intertwined!






This is why I search - 



Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!
















***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***






Footnotes:

1 Last name: Meharg, Surname Database, The Internet Surname Database, Retrieved June 20th 2020 from 
https://www.surnamedb.com/Surname/Meharg



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Monday, September 16, 2019

Tale of Two Cousins ~ Ann(e) Kirk Graham

52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: Week 38 (COUSINS)



Cousins - First Friends




In my first tree on Ancestry I used the shaky leaf hints, and had quite a few mistakes in assigning children to their parents. 



Traditional Scottish naming patterns can create confusion when attaching children to parents because the names are repeated. The traditional naming patterns can also provide clarity and confirmation when viewed with caution.


There was one that was more confusing than others.



The two Ann(e) Kirk Grahams who were 1st cousins.



My  4th great grandparents on the left,
Robert's older brother James on the right
The DNA symbol profile photo notes
confirmed DNA match for the family line

My 4th great aunt Anne Kirk (Annie) Graham
BIRTH 19 JAN 1847 • Lesmahagow, Lanark
DEATH 16 MAY 1918 • Galashiels, Selkirkshire, Scotland
&
my 1st cousin X5 removed
Ann Kirk Graham
BIRTH 27 FEB 1850 • Lesmahagow, Lanark
DEATH 26 JAN 1876 • Lesmahagow Lanarkshire Scotland



My 5th Great Grandparents




                                 Ann(e) Kirk               Peter Graham
                                  BIRTH ABT 1785                    BIRTH ABT 1788
                                       Unknown                  Closeburn, Dumfriesshire
    
                               DEATH Unknown                  DEATH Unknown




Anne and Peter had two sons & 2 daughters.



Their first child was James, my 5th great uncle

James Graham
BIRTH 16 JUL 1811 • Closeburn, Dumfrieshire, Scotland
DEATH 23 MAR 1886 • Drowned in River Dothan, Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire
married to my 5th great aunt
Elizabeth Pate
BIRTH 16 JUL 1818 • Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH 19 JULY 1873 • Turfholm, Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire, Scotland

Their daughter (my 1st cousin, X5 removed)
Ann Kirk Graham
BIRTH 27 FEB 1850 • Lesmahagow, Lanark
DEATH 26 JAN 1876 • Lesmahagow Lanarkshire Scotland

She was their 5th child, second daughter. 

First born was William Graham (born before parent's marriage)
Second born was Peter Graham (James' father was Peter)
Third born was Grace Graham (Elizabeth's mother was  Grizel/Grace)

Fourth born was Alexander (Elizabeth's father was Alexander)
Fifth born was Ann Kirk Graham above (James' mother was Ann(e) Kirk)
Sixth born was Isabella Graham (named after mother's sister)
Seventh born was Jane (Jean) Graham (named after mother's sister)
Eighth born was Elisabeth Graham (named after mother & father's sister)
Ninth born was William Graham (named after mother's brother or older brother)




Peter & Anne's second child, Robert, is my 4th great grandfather
Robert Graham
BIRTH 16 JAN 1814 • Thornhill, Closeburn, Dumfrieshire, Scotland
DEATH 24 MAR 1892 • Forth, Lanarkshire, Scotland
married to my 4th great grandmother
Susanah (Susan) Hamilton
BIRTH 03 NOV 1814 • Carnwath, Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH 11 APR 1894 • Forth, Lanarkshire, Scotland

There daughter (4th great aunt)

Anne Kirk (Annie) Graham
BIRTH 19 JAN 1847 • Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH 16 MAY 1918 • Galashiels, Selkirkshire, Scotland

She was their 4th child, second daughter. 


First born was Marion Weir Graham (Susanah's mother was Marion Weir)
Second born was Peter Graham (named after Robert's father)
Third born was Andrew Graham (Susana's father was Andrew)

Fourth born was Anne Kirk Graham above (named after Robert's mother)
Fifth born was Susan Graham (named after her mother)
Sixth born was Robert Graham (named after his father)
Seventh born was Catherine Graham (named after mother's sister)
Eighth born was William Graham (named after father' brother - below)
Ninth born was Thomas Graham (named after mother's brother)



In looking at the names of the children born to these brothers the Scottish naming patterns are pretty clear.


The naming patterns are as below
1st boy - named after father's father

1st girl - named after mother's mother
2nd boy - named after mother's father
2nd girl - named after father's mother
3rd boy - named after father
3rd girl - named after mother
4 or more children were named after the siblings of the parents. There was also a variation of naming after great grandparents. I can't say for certain if that is what happened with these two brothers because I haven't gone further up the tree for anyone except Susanah (Susan) Hamilton.


Susanah's children were not named after her grandparents



Thomas Hamilton
BIRTH 15 JUL 1749 • Douglas, Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH 2 APR 1818 • Douglas Parish, Lanarkshire, Scotland
and
Marion Tudhope
BIRTH 1749 • Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH 4 MAY 1821 • Lesmahagow, Lanarkshire, Scotland
&
John Weir
BIRTH ABT. 1755 • Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH Scotland
and

Anne Stark
BIRTH ABT. 1757 • Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH Scotland


Not to be forgotten
Peter & Ann(e) (nee Kirk) Graham's daughter were

3rd born child 
Mary Graham
BIRTH 9 FEB 1819 • Crawfordjohn, Lanarkshire, Scotland
DEATH Unknown
I have no further information about Mary at this time


4th born child 
Elizabeth Graham
BIRTH 10 FEB 1821 • Muirkirk, Ayrshire, Scotland:
DEATH 22 NOV 1903 • 16 Anderson Street, Cambusnethan, Lanarkshire
who married
William Stark
who may be related to Susanah's grandfather (above), but that research has not been done to date.



Going back to Ann(e) Kirk who married Peter Graham, and was the grandmother of the two Ann(e)s who are the subject of this blog. Ann(e)'s name was interchangeably used with an E on the end, and sometime no E. One granddaughter got the E, and the other did not. 



Census records show that when Anne Kirk Graham was 6 her family had moved to Carnwath from Lesmahagow. Ann Kirk Graham's family remained living in Lesmahagow. While only a 31 minute car ride in today's world the distance would have been pretty far in 1853. 



Ann's home on the left, Anne's home on the right


The Ann(e)'s were only 3 years apart & living near  each other until 1953. I imagine they were close cousins who visited with each other's families and their grandparents. When Anne Kirk Graham's family moved away the loss would have been hard. Then again - I am probably projecting as I have experienced this firsthand.


The Peter & Ann(e) (nee Kirk) Graham BRICK WALL remains fully in place.  I have not been able to find any children beyond the 4 noted above. I haven't been able to confirm birth, marriage, or death for Peter & Ann(e). 





Cousins by birth, friends by choice!












This is why I search - 



Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!















***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***






Related Previous Blogs:

Somehow Related Blog Spot,
Brick Wall - researching Grahams from Holytown, Scotland who immigrated to Canada

https://somehowrelated.blogspot.com/2019/01/brick-wall-researching-grahams-from.html

Somehow Related Blog Spot
Robert Graham ~ Scottish Carrier
https://somehowrelated.blogspot.com/2019/05/robert-graham-scottish-carrier.html


Sources:

Travel  Lesmahagow to Carnwath, Google Maps, retrieved September 16th 2019 from
https://www.google.ca/maps/dir/Lesmahagow,+Lanark,+UK/Carnwath,+Lanark,+UK/@55.6417809,-3.8954293,11z/data=!4m14!4m13!1m5!1m1!1s0x4888105949081b09:0x8d19df4aeb985b86!2m2!1d-3.88657!2d55.637634!1m5!1m1!1s0x4887e02885067a65:0x8423c9b76c881b52!2m2!1d-3.6235701!2d55.701201!3e0?hl=en&authuser=0


Scotland Names Personal, Family Search,  retrieved September 15th 2019 from
https://www.familysearch.org/wiki/en/Scotland_Names_Personal


Understanding the Scottish Naming Pattern 54, The Indepth Genealogist,  retrieved September 15th 2019 from  http://theindepthgenealogist.com/understanding-scottish-naming-pattern/
2024 - this link is no longer a valid link
these links may provide clarity
https://scottishkin.com/the-traditional-scottish-naming-system
https://www.whodoyouthinkyouaremagazine.com/feature/scottish-names-and-naming-traditions



Links:

Amy Johnson Crow, 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks Challenge
https://www.amyjohnsoncrow.com/



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include a link to the specific blog and
credit http://somehowrelated.blogspot.com/
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All rights reserved.
Please & Thank you!


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