Remembering ~ Ronald Clare Buchner

 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks 2021: Week 12 (LOSS)

Our children are in their early 20s. They have 2 great grandparents still alive. They only have one grandparent. Both my husband and I come from families that live to 100 - until they don't. My mom passed away in 2015 (age 65), his mom passed away in 2019 (67), and last month  his dad passed away at the age of 74.
 

My husband was 3 when his parents divorced, and his mother moved them across the country. Over the years they spent some time together. After the age of 3 there was little consistent day to day contact.

Nature VS Nurture. 
The first time I met my father-in-law I noticed they smelled the same.
It was strange to realize this stranger had the same pheromones as the man I had been close to for 6 years.
They share mannerisms.
Their voice was so similar it was hard for me to pick out which one was talking.
Child development says birth to age 3 is where the foundations are built so maybe it's a combination of genetics and nurture.

Father & Son

During a visit when our youngest was about 11 I walked behind grandfather & grandson.
They were walking side by side down the hall.
Their pace was the same.
Their cadence was the same.
Their shoulder positioning the same.
Their body structure the same.
Nature VS Nurture. 

Grandfather & Grandson

Grief is complicated.
My husband lost the only dad he ever had.
Both his parents have died.
He is now an orphan. 

Remembering
Ronald Clare Buchner
BIRTH 24 JUL 1946 • Tillsonburg, Oxford County, Ontario, Canada
DEATH 6 FEB 2021 • Puerto Vallarta Hospital, Puerto Vallarta, Jalisco, Mexico

When the genes pass generation to generation!!!

Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!












***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***

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Remembrance (nee Luce) Merry ~ Martha's Vineyard

 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks 2021: Week 11 (FORTUNE)

6 days without Internet made this week's blog planning a bit difficult.
I thought that I had at least one person in our tree named (or known as) LUCKY. 

Once our internet provider finally showed up to reconnect the wires that had been pulled down by a tall truck on our street I was ready to start searching who to feature.

Seems my memory is not what it used to be. 

Using the TREE SEARCH function in our Bramble Bush I typed LUC, and the direction of this post completely changed as I began to giggle. 

Then again, maybe I am the only one who found this week's PLOT TWIST amusing. 
Which is okay because I mostly write for ME!

As soon as I typed LUC my 9th great grandmother raised her hand to have her story told.

Then again - maybe she was mocking me which is why I giggled

Mispronouncing LUCE as LUCKY and noting the irony of my MEMORY not being what it was....

I introduce you to my 9th great grandparents on my maternal grandmother's paternal line:

Remember Luce

BIRTH 16 NOV 1670 • Rehoboth, Bristol, Massachusetts Bay Colony, British Colonial America
DEATH 31 JAN 1739 • Martha's Vineyard, West Tisbury, Dukes, Massachusetts Bay Colony, British Colonial America
and
Samuel Merry
BIRTH 16 NOV 1669 • Hampton, Rockingham, New Hampshire, USA
DEATH 6 OCT 1727 • West Tisbury, Dukes, Massachusetts, USA

X9 great grandpa Samuel served as Constable, Selectman and Surveyor of Town Lands at Martha's Vineyard.

There is a lot of information about the family available due to the family connections in Martha's Vineyard.

Which brings us back to the prompt of FORTUNE.

I never knew of my family's connection to a town I have never visited, but I did know about the wealth or FURTUNE associated with it. 

I am Remember & Samuel's X9 great granddaughter through their son:

John Merry
BIRTH 17 SEP 1689 • Martha's Vineyard, West Tisbury, Dukes, Massachusetts, United States
DEATH 4 OCT 1771 • Tisbury, Dukes, Massachusetts, United States
and
Mehitable Hillman
BIRTH 1693 • Nantucket, Nantucket, Massachusetts, USA
DEATH 18 MAY 1771 • Vineyard Haven, Tisbury, Dukes, Massachusetts, United States

When your relative shakes the family tree to get your attention!!!

Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!












***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***

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Same Name ~ Father & Daughter

 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks 2021: Week 10 (NAME'S THE SAME)

Yesterday my grandfather would have turned 91. 
He died 10 years ago at the age of 81. 

John Robert (Jack) (Jacky) Graham
BIRTH 7 MAR 1930 • Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada
DEATH 5 AUG 2011 • Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

I never knew him.
He left the family before I was born.

He briefly returned to walk my mom down the aisle for her marriage to my dad.

No one from his first family knew of his death until several years after he had died. 

I have written several posts about grandpa Jack which left me pondering if I should write about him again.

I decided YES!

This is my genealogy blog, and I get to decide the rules. 

To be honest it's really my mom that I am missing. 

It's just a few days until the 6 year anniversary of her death.

Her father's birthday reminder from Family Search last week left me thinking about my mom. 

Memory is a funny thing. 

I can almost hear her say she loves me to the moon and back again.

I can almost smell her perfume.

I kept a bottle of her signature scent while emptying her house for sale after her death. In the 6 years since I have only once taken that bottle out to spend a moment of time with my mom. I do have to make the decision carefully because I am allergic to mom's favourite perfume.
The sneezing, runny nose and itchy eyes usually stop within the hour! 

I can almost feel her touch:

Top to bottom: Mom, Me, my youngest brother
The special blanket my mom's sister made her

It's been 6 years since mom died, and I miss her everyday.
I still start to pick up the phone to tell her about something that happened before I remember she can't answer my call. 

This year will be my 7th Mother's Day without mom.

I know it's still 2 months away, but I can still feel how painful that first Mother's Day without mom was. In the years since it hasn't gotten any easier. When I was emptying mom's house about a month before that first Mother's Day I found the card I had sent her the previous year. Inside the card she had written "I LOVE THIS CARD" in capital letters. She never told me that she loved the card I had sent her on what would be her last Mother's Day. I am grateful for the message she left behind. 

I don't think I will ever stop missing her. 

Mom was named after her father.
She is her father's oldest child. 

Jack's first family (missing 2 sons yet to be born)

Her father was John Robert Graham. He was known as Jacky as a child, and Jack as an adult. My mom was named after her father: Jacki-Roberta Graham. 

Remembering my mom on her father's birthday 

It seems this topic is an annual event in my genealogy blog.

I wrote about mom and her father 1 year ago. 

It's important to look back every now and again for new ideas and hints!

This is why I search - 

Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!
















***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***

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Amy Johnson Crow, 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks Challenge
https://www.amyjohnsoncrow.com/

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Virtual Conference ~ Relatives at RootsTech

 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks 2021: Week 9 (MULTIPLES)

This past weekend I attended the virtual ROOTSTECH CONFERENCE. I have never been able to attend in the past, but this year's virtual conference made it so easy. I didn't have to travel, and I didn't have to take time off work. I never thought there would be a positive to be found in a worldwide pandemic.  Being able to attend the RootsTech Conference is definitely a positive side of the Covid-19 Pandemic. 

Don't get me wrong - I would love to travel. 

My husband and I had a trip planned to New York September 2020. It was canceled. We had big plans. We were going to attend the 911 Memorial. We were going to Ellis Island to find the documents for my husband's ancestor. Our hotel was right in the heart of Midtown Manhattan. He looked forward to the Hot Dogs, and I the Bagels -- ooohhhh the food.

Canceled!!! 

We now have ginormous travel vouchers we may never get to use. 

I dream of the day we will hear those magic words "This is your captain speaking". 

Until then I am grateful for the small wins like an amazing free virtual genealogy conference.

This year's Roots Tech Conference had a cool feature I signed up for -
RELATIVES AT ROOTSTECH

My first thought was WOW --- that is a lot of relatives at this conference.

These relatives of mine are all over the world as shown on the maps below.

When I started to look more carefully at the matches I discovered the closest is 4th cousin X2 removed, and they are as distant as 11th cousins. The search function breaks down maternal and paternal lines. On my paternal side I had 11 matches. All 11 were on my father's maternal line. My biggest brick wall is my father's paternal line, and not one match was via that line. None of the matches that I looked at helped me break down any of my brick walls. 

I realized that the multiple matches on my mother's maternal line was because I hadn't added enough to my other lines on the Family Search site. I spend some time over the weekend doing that. Sadly it didn't break down any walls. One of my matches was connected through the NPE (Non paternal event) that I have in my tree. It was only with Ancestry DNA that it became clear my great grandmother was not the biological daughter of her mother's husband. 

It was only when I realized all of my matches are attending the virtual RootsTech conference that everything made sense. The reason my brick walls are solidly intact is because I haven't yet found the people who know or the sources with the facts. The connected relatives are only through the Family Search Family Trees. 

My father's paternal grandparents immigrated from Ukraine to Canada in 1909. I have no solid information from before they departed the port of Bremen. Not one of my connections were from that area.

Multiple sources sharing the same information doesn't provide any new information. 

It's only when I find the right sources that the brick walls will come down!

This is why I search - 



Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!
















***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***




Sources:

RootsTeach by Family Search, Retrieved February 27th 2021 from
https://www.familysearch.org/rootstech/rtc2021/

Links:

Amy Johnson Crow, 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks Challenge
https://www.amyjohnsoncrow.com/

If you reference or use my blog posts in any way please

include a link to the specific blog and

credit http://somehowrelated.blogspot.com/

My blogs are ©Deborah Buchner, 2014 forward.

All rights reserved.

Please & Thank you!

________________________________________________________________