This is my space to share my quest to collect as many broken branches as I can in my fractured family tree which resembles a bramble bush more then a proper tree. As I go forward in this blogging journey I hope to share how I have searched far & wide for family - with no regard for where they come from or if I should really want them.
You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!

Tuesday, December 26, 2023

Until Next Year ~ Looking forward to 2024

 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks 2023: Week 52 (ME, MYSELF, AND I)


As 2023 comes to a close I reflect on my year of blogging about the ancestors that came before us & the roots of this Bramble Bush.

I had decided to skip the weeks we were away on vacation. 

That decision had felt great during the vacation week. 

As the year came to a close I realized I really didn't want 2023 to have 50 weeks while 2019-2022 all had 52. 

I back-filled the 2 weeks of September vacation with vacation photos and details, and 2023 will end with 52 weeks. 

September at Kootenai Falls, Montana

My decision for 2024 is to share vacation photos after returning home. 

It doesn't matter when I actually update them, but they will be saved with the appropriate dates for when the activities took place. 

2024 will be my 6th year writing weekly about our Bramble Bush. 

I take pride in writing weekly. 

If at any point it begins to feel like a chore I take a moment to remember why I write:
    1. to create a tangible record of how I spend my time and our money
    2. to leave the stories for my children for when I am no longer here to
        tell them
    3. for a future me who discovers they know little of where they fit in
        their own genealogical story & while searching finds themselves
        in my stories

If the idea of writing about your family tree interests you
   - join & see the 2024 weekly prompts, for 52 Ancestors In 52 Weeks 2024 edition at this link:

Breathing life into your ancestors one story at a time!!! 



This is why I search - 


Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!







***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***



Photo:

Personal


Links:

Amy Johnson Crow, 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks Challenge
https://www.amyjohnsoncrow.com/52-ancestors-in-52-weeks/



If you reference or use my blog posts in any way please
include a link to the specific blog and
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My blogs are ©Deborah Buchner, 2014 forward.
All rights reserved.
Please & Thank you!

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Saturday, December 23, 2023

Blaine Bettinger ~ When the Mentor May Not Know the Mentee

 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks 2023: Week 51 (COUSINS)


When trying to figure out the cousin connection to new DNA matches the Shared CM Project created by Genealogist Blaine Bettinger is my go-to tool.

Link to the tool in Sources below

DNA Painter has a fantastic tutorial on using this tool effectively.


Along with the brilliant Genealogist, Amy Johnson Crow,  who created the #52 Ancestors - Blaine explains how to use DNA in your genealogy research. 

Using DNA in Your Genealogy -
Tips from Blaine Bettinger, the Genetic Genealogist

If you haven't heard about Blaine Bettinger you need to check out his many resources.

No cousin hunting is complete without the knowledge shared by Blaine.

You can follow him on Twitter 
https://twitter.com/blaine_5?lang=en

You can join his Facebook page
https://www.facebook.com/groups/237902130006828/?hoisted_section_header_type=recently_seen&multi_permalinks=1810246626105696

You can subscribe to his YouTube channel
https://www.youtube.com/c/BlaineBettinger

You can view some of his webinars
https://familytreewebinars.com/speaker/blaine-bettinger/



You can listen to him on this podcast 
https://www.thegenealogyprofessional.com/blaine-bettinger/

A web search can find even more amazing resources by this fantastic mentor to us all.



When the mentor may not know his mentees!!! 



This is why I search - 


Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!







***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***




Sources:

DNA Painter Shared cM TUTORIAL: Use Siblings and Cousins!!! YouTube. Retrieved December 23rd 2023 from
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhGuo5m-wO8

Shared cM Project chart. Retrieved December 23rd 2023 from
https://thegeneticgenealogist.com/2020/03/27/version-4-0-march-2020-update-to-the-shared-cm-project/

Version 4.0! March 2020 Update to the Shared cM Project! Blaine Bettinger. 27 March 2020. Retrieved December 23rd 2023 from
https://thegeneticgenealogist.com/2020/03/27/version-4-0-march-2020-update-to-the-shared-cm-project/



Links:

Amy Johnson Crow, 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks Challenge
https://www.amyjohnsoncrow.com/52-ancestors-in-52-weeks/



If you reference or use my blog posts in any way please
include a link to the specific blog and
credit http://somehowrelated.blogspot.com/
My blogs are ©Deborah Buchner, 2014 forward.
All rights reserved.
Please & Thank you!

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Tuesday, December 12, 2023

You Wouldn't Believe It ~ He Used the Wrong Shortbread Recipe

 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks 2023: Week 50 (YOU WOULDN'T BELIEVE IT)


Last week I wrote about my mother's shortbread cookies explaining that I loved them because they were wrapped in childhood memory and love, but they weren't actually good cookies. 

When Chris offered to bake my mom's shortbread cookies for me, the first Christmas after she died, I asked him to make whipped shortbread instead because they were better.

In the years since he has become our annual baker of perfect shortbread cookies. 

Every year our Christmas Butter Budget grows as he includes more and more in his list of shortbread cookie recipients. 

I noticed he was digging his recipe card out of the box this week when he asked me to add butter to my grocery list since he only had enough butter for one batch. 

This wasn't a problem though since he was making the first batch for his next day meeting at work. 

He said he had shared in a meeting earlier that day that he was a shortbread master and promised cookies. 

That evening he proudly presented me a cookie ...


I took a bite ... 

He watched my face, and said 'maybe it's because I flattened them" after a pause he said 'I've never had to flatten them before'.

I asked if he used my mother's recipe. 

He said he used the recipe he always uses.

I found the recipe card he used on the counter, and couldn't believe it - he used my mom's recipe.

I had known he used my mother's recipe the moment the cookie hit my teeth - I recognized the texture & flavour. 

The only thing missing was the dried fruit.

He stood at the counter looking at all the cookies that were not brag worthy to take to his meeting the next day looking sad. 

About an hour later he dashed to the grocery store for butter & left it overnight to soften.

He got up early in the morning to make a fresh batch of cookies for his meeting. 


His reputation as a master shortbread cookie maker was protected!

There is a part of my that believes my mom was a part of ensuring her annual shortbread cookie present arrived this first Christmas without Grandma. 


Remembering my mom via awful cookies!!! 



This is why I search - 


Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!







***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***




Photos:

Personal


Links:

Amy Johnson Crow, 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks Challenge
https://www.amyjohnsoncrow.com/52-ancestors-in-52-weeks/



If you reference or use my blog posts in any way please
include a link to the specific blog and
credit http://somehowrelated.blogspot.com/
My blogs are ©Deborah Buchner, 2014 forward.
All rights reserved.
Please & Thank you!

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Wednesday, December 6, 2023

Mom's Christmas Baking ~ When Substitutions Will Not Do

 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks 2023: Week 49 (FAMILY RECIPE)


My mom was famous for her pies. 

She tried many times to teach me to make pie crust, but I never had the 'feel'. So many times she would say to knead it until it felt right. No matter how many times she demonstrated for me I never knew when it felt right. 

She broke all the rules. She used room temperature shortening. She handled it a lot. She rolled it out over and over again until it was just right. Every time she made pie her crust was flaky & tender - it was always perfect.

It saddens me that I can't make pie crust like my mom. 

I wrote about mom's pies in my July 25th 2019 blog.
You can read it here Not So Easy ~ The Pie Strike

My mother gave me her handwritten recipe book from when she was first married to my father. She wanted me to have the recipe book because it has my dad's granny's scone recipe in it. My paternal grandmother was born in Scotland, and the recipe is her mother's recipe.

Mom's handwritten recipe book front cover, circa 1967 

                  **How I miss seeing that handwriting**


Mom's handwritten recipe book scone ingredients, circa 1967


Mom's handwritten recipe book scone instructions, circa 1967
     


As I looked through the recipe book I was flooded with memories about my mom, and the food she prepared. 

My mom died almost 9 years ago. 

I still think about her almost everyday. 

My mom was a fantastic cook. 

My parents were divorced when I was 8. One of the things my dad remembers fondly about my mom was her cooking. When dad comes for dinner I often cook the recipes my mom used to make, and he tells me stories of when their marriage was happy. 

When I was in my late teens I was in the hospital having my appendix out, and my mom brought me a 5 Roses cookbook as a present. 

I thought my mom was a jerk for bringing me a cookbook while I was in the hospital unable to eat. 

I hadn't eaten for almost 2 weeks before the surgery, and was a couple of days into not eating for a week after the surgery. 

As a teenager I couldn't imagine why I would need this old fashioined recipe book.

I now know that I was the jerk. 

This is my go-to recipe book almost 40 years later. 

Every time I open it up I can picture my mom at the kitchen table with her copy deciding what to cook for dinner. My copy has notes that I copied from hers, no cover, and many pages are loose. 


I can also picture her standing at my bedside in hospital confused why I wasn't excited about her giving me this cookbook. 

I really was a jerk!

This is the time of year I miss my mom the most. 

She loved Christmas, and baked so many treats. 

She never forgot what treat each of us kids loved as children, and would mail us a Christmas care package with our favourites. 

Mine was her rolled shortbread cookies. 

One year she was visiting me at Christmas time and watched as I pulled the dried fruit off the round shortbread cookie & dropped it into the trash. 

She asked me why I did that. 

I told her I hate dried fruit. 

She replied she would stop putting dried fruit on my cookies. 

I looked at her horrified and explained that would ruin my favourite childhood cookie - that picking the dried fruit off to go in the trash was part of my special childhood memory. 

She muttered that dried fruits weren't cheap and it added extra work to the cookie making. 

In the following years my shortbread always arrived with the dried fruit in place. 

Have I mentioned recently what a jerk I am?

A couple years after mom died my husband offered to make me shortbread using my mom's recipe. 

I told him I only loved them because they were made with the special ingredient of mommy love, and if he really wanted to make me shortbread that I would love it needed to be whipped shortbread.

I am definitely a jerk -- 


I frequently remind my husband that if it weren't for his faults he would have a better wife than I!




When you love your moms recipes, and substitutions just won't do!




This is why I search - 


Cause ... 





You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family you know!







***Any errors are my own. Please send me any updates or corrections via the comments at the bottom of this blog post***


Photos:

Laughing emoji, clipart

Recipe books, personal


Links:

Amy Johnson Crow, 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks Challenge
https://www.amyjohnsoncrow.com/52-ancestors-in-52-weeks/



If you reference or use my blog posts in any way please
include a link to the specific blog and
credit http://somehowrelated.blogspot.com/
My blogs are ©Deborah Buchner, 2014 forward.
All rights reserved.
Please & Thank you!

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